Oh where do I begin???? When I meet my loving husband he already had a beautiful little 1 year old.....Danielle. Things moved pretty fast between us and we became a little family! The hubby and his "ex" (I will remain nice even though I really am fighting a ERGE to tell a different story) have never got along....thats why she is the ex (gag sucks being nice)! She worked and I had Danielle all day. This went on until she was out of preschool. We had her pretty much every weekend and some. Around the time Danielle was 13 things were pretty bad between my hubby and "the ex". They fought about everything. In return she would keep her from us. And honestly we did not fight for her either. We all make mistakes now and then. By this time we had 3 little girls also and frankly just did not want to deal with all the drama this brought to our home. And I am not saying that my home is perfect and drama free at all but who needs extra....right? Whether this was the right thing to do or not it can not be changed now. We have been paying for this ever since. Mind you she would not have let us talk to her if we had tried. Anyway to hurry things along...........we have tried to mend the bridges between us and it has not gone well at all. Danielle is still mad at her dad and her mom is loving every minute of it! The "ex" is remarried (biting my tongue) and has a little family and wants to pretend we don't exist........well sorry that is not an option!!!!!!! January of 2010 we sought a lawyer and are fighting for our visitation! It really should be black and white but NO not that easy. Her lawyer keeps continuing and pushing it back and back and now here we are 1 year later and we have our day in court and the "ex" doesn't show up! Really? We are not going away. All this has done is get her in trouble (fighting the laughter)! Contempt baby! But now we wait again for another court date. Danielle will be 16 in a month and we will still be fighting in court! You hear so many stories of dead beat dads that don't pay support or don't even want to claim the child and then you have my hubby who wants to be a good dad and can't! Don't get me wrong mistakes have been made by both sides, people have been called names and things have been just darn nasty but the simple fact is we are good parents and my hubby is a GREAT dad and he deserves the right to see his daughter! It is very sad to think that in 2 years she will be a grown up and will legally be able to make her own choices. We have lost so much time and can never get it back. We just want to be a part of her life. The hardest part of this whole deal has been seeing my girls see their sister and then not see their sister. Claudia even says to me last night....."I am not sure what Danielle looks like now? I kinda forgot!" How heartbreaking is that. I just get all choked up thinking of all the things that we have already missed. Dances, boys, 1st day of high school and so so much more. I feel that at least today we have made another step in the right direction and I hope and pray that Danielle knows that we love her very much and can't wait to see her beautiful face again! Even though I am sure it is gonna be an adjustment for everyone at first! Life is not always peaches and cream and Family should always be on top of your list! Even when they get on your nerves or make you mad they are your family! I love my family and I have a feeling this is the year that we will all be together once again!!! Here's to 2012........(o:
Until we meet again ~Jen Diaz~
Danielle is the one that gave me the name "Momma Jen"!!! =)
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